The day before the marriage was the aai-budo-bhaat. The last meal of the unmarried girl in her home was celebrated with all relatives and friends, songs were sung and many jokes shared in giggling tones by the many aunts and boudis.
This is like a bachelorette party or rather, the bride’s last meal as a maiden in her parents’ home. The mother prepares a lavish spread of traditional Bengali dishes for her daughter. The entire extended family is invited on this bonhomie-filled occasion. Held the day before the wedding, Aai Budo Bhaat can also be hosted by close relatives, and symbolizes everybody’s approval.
Aai Buddo Bhaat refers to the last meal that the maiden partakes of in her own house before she is married off. A joyous occasion, it calls for a mini-feast where the bride's extended family and close friends join in the celebrations and wish her all the best. The Ai Buddo Bhaat feast consists of typically Bengali fare such as rice, fish, luchis (puri), vegetable preparations and sweets such as payash, rasgullas etc. This ritual takes place in the home of the groom also. Conversely, sometimes close friends and relatives invite the would-be groom/bride to their house for Al Buddo Bhaat where all their favorite dishes are prepared and they usually receive gifts.